I am in no way wishing away summer but as we get closer to fall I see an end to the chaotic family schedule we live with during the summer…parties, bbq’s, camps, late nights…and I see off in the distance a somewhat more controlled life. Back to regular schedules that include school, sports and Date Nights!!
Trevor and I are pretty serious about our date nights. We try to have a date night at least twice a month. We go for dinner (alone or with friends), sometimes we go shopping, sometimes we go to a movie. On Friday night we went out played 9 holes of golf and followed it up with a dinner at Lock 17 on River Rd in Kemptville. My interest had faded by about the 4th hole but I was just happy to be hanging out with my BFF. I love watching him play, I love when he laughs at me and my frustration with the game, I love when he tries to help me improve and I love having that quality, quiet time with him on the course.
After our round of golf we were pretty sweaty but thankfully we had brought a change of clothes. I changed in the parking lot of the golf course, I was able to be pretty discreet until I tried to lift my shirt off over my head and got my hair stuck on the button of my polo. I have to admit that was one of my favorite moments of the night, we laughed so hard. Actually Trevor laughed so hard while I struggled to get my hair unhooked so I could put some clothes on. I put on a to die for black dress I’d bought at Panache (also in Kemptville) and slid into my sexy CFM’s that have been retired for the summer. I asked Trevor how I looked and he smiled and said “I feel underdressed”.
We had a fantastic dinner but enjoyed the live music even more. After we’d finished eating we cuddled up on the same side of the table so we could both see the band. We sang, we hugged and kissed and laughed and talked. Neither of us wanted to go home.
Date nights are so important for marriages. I truly believe in the saying “Strong marriages make for strong families.” It allows you time to talk and reconnect. It is really important to try to not talk about the kids, bills or anything else that might cause you stress. Do things you used to do, things that made you fall in love with each other in the first place. Take chances, get changed in the parking lot instead of in the bathrroom, and make the effort, put on a sexy black dress instead of just throwing on a sweatshirt. Try new things, compromise. Trevor and I have agreed that we are going to take turns planning our date nights. He picked golf and dinner so next time it’s my turn…what will I pick? I think I might actually like to try out my very own Spa Talk Date Night Kit. A night at Le Nordik Spa, dinner there of course because it’s amazing, hot tubs, fire places…and the special little communication activity that comes with the kit. I think I know Trevor better than he knows himself but I have a feeling he might surprise me with some of his answers to the questions.
I’d love to hear about your latest date night…please share, I’m going to need to stock pile some ideas to get me through the long Canadian winter.