Corporate and Special Event Planning

Why it is “In the Moment”

Why it is “In the Moment”
When I started this company, coming up with the perfect name was really important to me. Not so much for marketing purposes but more because it was really important that it reflect why I am doing what I do. 
I love this company just like I love my family but only for one reason, because it allows me the opportunity to help others make special moments in their lives just that much better.
“In the Moment” was chosen because life is about living every moment to the best of your ability, even the difficult moments. Wonderful moments are easy to celebrate and enjoy but when you can see the best in a difficult moment is when you know that you are truly living. 
My husband, Trevor, always says that some people are just always going to be around death and we just seem to be those people. Our family has experienced more death already in our lifetime then most will not see until much later in their lives if at all.
When death happens most people fall apart, and understandably so. When my grandmother passed away my grandfather sat in his chair at the cottage and cried all the time. Not long before she passed away we celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary at our family cottage. After so many years together he was lost with her.


A few years later I watched my sister go through the most difficult days of her life while her son battled cancer. I had never seen anyone not be afraid to do exactly what she needed to do to make the most of these moments in her life and that of her son Elgin. People often asked her how she could possibly want to photograph Elgin’s treatments. Her answer was simple, because this is his journey. I remember my sister being agree with people for not including her in invitations to parties because they thought she wouldn’t want to attend because she had enough on her plate. She wanted to forget about her life sometimes too and wasn’t afraid to laugh when she needed to, or to dance when she needed to. And when Elgin passed away she asked me to help her to take his hand prints and the nurse helped her to bath him and dress him before they took him away. She lived through every moment of his short life. 

Just this past February my dad, at the age of 60, died suddenly. He was out playing hockey with his friends and my mom on the Rideau River when he tripped and fell backwards straight onto his head. The brain damage was so severe that my mom, my sister and I had to make the decision to not allow him to live his life that way, if he ever woke up. Everyone talks about how strong I am. I often laugh at that because I’m not. After he passed away I sat on my couch for days, not even sure how many, and didn’t move, didn’t think, didn’t do anything. Thank god for my husband who just kept telling me it was ok to do what I needed to do. For those days I often laughed and said it felt like I had man brain. For the first time in my life I knew what it felt like to think about nothing. Nothing at all.
Since he has died I have thought a lot about his life and how when he passed away he didn’t want for anything and I am pretty certain he left with no regrets. My dad lived his life his way. He rode his bike, he kayaked, he traveled, he spent time with his dad at our family cottage, he drank good beer (none of that cheap stuff) and ate wings and pizza as often as he wanted. 
This morning as I was wasting time scrolling through Facebook I came across a post about a song writing contest and an old man. I don’t often watch movies on line but this one required my attention for some reason and I am pretty sure it was the old photo of this man and his beautiful wife (I live my life through photographs so if you ever need to catch my attention that’s the way to do it). I watched this video and cried like a baby from the minute it started. The song he wrote for his wife reflects exactly how I feel about life. His message is that you only get to live once and that he would give anything to go back and live those moments again with his wife. In case you haven’t seen it, please take a minute and watch it
I know, although my grandfather is now remarried, that he would give anything to go back and live those moments with my grandmother. I know my sister would give her life to go back and live those moments again with Elgin, even the difficult ones. I know my mom would do whatever it takes to get my dad back so that she could live every moment with him again. If I could I would go back and spend more time and say all the things I wish I had said to everyone in my life I have lost. But I know I can’t.
Instead I try really hard to live in this moment. Right here, right now. I am not perfect, far from it. And I am sometimes the worst example of my own preachings but I do try really hard.
I make sure that I don’t miss any special moments in my daughter’s lives, I make sure that they know they are loved and how proud I am of them. And I do my best to make sure they experience everything possible.
I work really hard at making sure my marriage is the best that it can be all the time. Even after being married for almost 16 years (together for 20) we still date. We laugh together, we cry together. I do believe in marriage being forever. I do believe people give up too easy. I want Trevor and I to be exactly like the old man that inspired this blog post. I want to be married for 75 years. 75 years of wonderful moments, 75 years of difficult moments but 75 years together.
If you are caught up in what you think life is supposed to be take a minute and step back. If you are caught up in living the dream, are you sure you know what the dream is? 
Go to bed at night knowing that you did the best you could today. Go to bed knowing that you are loved and that those most important to you know that you love them with all your heart. 
Thank you Fred for reminding me today of how amazing my life is and for reminding me how important it is to truly enjoy every moment I get to spend with those that I love.
Julia O’Grady has big vision, fresh ideas and a proven track record in the events industry. She and her team work hard to exceed client expectations and push ITM Events to achieve greater heights. A driven entrepreneur, Julia also manages the business side of ITM Events including human resources, finances, marketing and writing grant and sales proposals. In taking a high level approach to event management, Julia is able to visualize a project from inception to successful execution. She attracts valuable sponsors by offering meaningful opportunities to engage with participants. Julia uses her keen analytical mind to create incredible events that maximize the available budget. When Julia isn’t planning unforgettable events, she loves travelling the world with her family, staying active, and enjoying fine food and martinis.


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